The tyranny of distance
Even though I had written over 200,000 words for this client over the years and we had a great professional relationship, we had never met. We’d never even talked on the phone.
One day he sent an email asking me to write a column for him under a tight deadline, but only if I had time. “If you can do it, great – if not, don’t worry about it. Just let me know if you can.” I assumed it wasn’t urgent or critical. I also assumed “let me know if you can” meant I didn’t need to let him know if I couldn’t.
Since I didn’t really have time, I didn’t respond.
(And you now know exactly where this is headed.)
He felt I let him down, as he should have – not because I didn’t write the column but because I didn’t let him know I couldn’t. When he expressed that sentiment in an email I assumed he was kidding so I responded the same way. He naturally didn’t understand why I was being flippant about a serious subject. I didn’t understand why he was upset.
We exchanged several emails before I realised a great business relationship was quickly sliding off the rails. I mentioned it to a friend and said, “I really need to get him on the phone.”
My friend said, “No you don’t. You need to see him. He needs to see you. And it needs to be today. Get him on a video chat.”
Putting on your Blue Jeans
It took a little convincing, because by this point my client wasn’t really in the mood to talk to me, but he finally agreed. I suggested using a certain popular video conferencing software. He uses BlueJeans. He wanted to talk at 2 p.m. I was going to be out of the office at that time. No problems. It worked on mobile devices.
So we “met” online. I apologised. I explained. I told him how much our professional relationship meant to me. He scolded me. I took it. We talked – and more importantly, we saw each other. He saw the sincerity on my face. I saw his face as he spoke and could react to his expressions: knowing when I needed to go farther, knowing when I was starting to “sell after the sale.”
Connection is important
We connected in a professional yet also a personal way – and in the process turned what had been a major problem into an opportunity to actually strengthen our professional relationship.
All it took was a little face-to-face time.
We all know the importance of face time. We all know that business connections are stronger when they’re personal as well as professional. Yet we’re all busy, and naturally turn to tools like email and text, and the occasional phone call, to establish and maintain those relationships.
But sometimes nothing can be as powerful as speaking face-to-face… and what happened to me (no, wait, it didn’t happen to me, I caused it) was a great reminder that online meeting software can strike the perfect balance between efficiency and efficacy.
The next time you want to strengthen a business relationship – or repair a damaged one – try a video chat. It’s easy, it’s cost-effective and can be an incredibly powerful way to convince, to persuade, to connect… or even to say you’re sorry.
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Originally published 11 August 2015. Updated 29th July 2019.